Are you a Nice Guy? (Personality Test)

Written by Mark D. Burg 

Since men are already an easy target in our mainstream culture, the caricature of a Nice Guy might be an object of amusement rather than concern. Nice Guys themselves are usually not aware of their counterproductive beliefs. After all, how can being nice be such a bad thing? 

By classifying certain men as Nice Guys, I'm not referring to their actual behavior, which can be anything but nice. I'm referring to their approach to life and their core beliefs, which lead to self-loathing, anger, and other toxic behaviors. 
 

I have developed a personality test that will tell you if you hold any of the Nice Guy beliefs and help you better understand if you need to address anything. 

Agree or disagree with the following statements: 

1. I put other people first before addressing my own needs. 
2. I am only giving when I can expect something in return. 
3. I tend to hide my mistakes, flaws, and shortcoming. 
4. I enjoy solving other people's problems and fixing situations. 
5. I get easily offended and am emotional in my response. 
6. When trying to get what I want, I'm not shying away from lying and manipulating others.  
7. I tend to express my frustrations and disappointment in indirect and passive-aggressive ways. 
8. I seek approval and validation from others, especially women. 
9. I tend to glorify, idealize and pedestalize women. 
10. I struggle to discuss my needs and sexual preferences with my partner. 
11. I'm not satisfied with my sex life and have a sexual dysfunction like keeping an erection. 
12. I am addicted to Video Games and/or Pornography and tend to masturbate a lot. 
13. I feel responsible and guilty for the horrible things men do worldwide. 
14. I don't live up to my full potential. 
15. I wasn't 100% honest when answering the questions above. 

If you agree with any of the statements above, you hold some Nice Guy beliefs that likely hold you back in life. 

Nice Guys believe that by being nice, they will be loved and appreciated by others, especially women. To do that, Nice Guys usually put other people's needs first in the hope of reciprocation. They do that while hiding their true intentions. This leads to frustrations on both sides as the Nice Guy expects payback which he usually doesn't get, and the person who engages with the Nice Guy can never be sure about his true intentions. 

Being a Nice Guy is not a destiny; it's a choice. You can change and 

• develop a healthy sense of self 
• make your needs and desires a priority 
• embrace your masculinity and sexuality 
• become confident, assertive, and genuinely compassionate 
• set boundaries and address issues in a direct and constructive manner  

For more information on how to best do that join our Inner Circle and have a look at The NiceToAlpha Success Course.